Touch Base Tuesdays with Dr. Ed Dunkelblau


Dr Ed Dunkelbau helps families prepare for the before, during, and after phases of military deployment. He shares his practical wisdom in a discussion with your seasoned and sassy psychologist Host Dr. Margarita Gurri

Tune in and Touch Base as this award-winning speaker psychologist shares his Deployment Wisdom. Families are systems, they function with various parts, adjust to a missing member, and readjust to a return to completeness in their own way.

  1. Prepare for and anticipate homecomings with frank discussions
  2. Take it slowly
  3. Use friends, family, and professional supports
  4. Talk about wishes and concerns
  5. Use humor and play

Director of the Institute for Emotionally Intelligent Learning, Dr. Dunkelblau is a licensed clinical psychologist who speaks nationally to schools and Fortune 500 companies on social-emotional intelligence, humor, and health. He is a DoD Yellow Ribbon speaker, Email.

His commitment, innovation, and expertise have been recognized: Distinguished Alum Service Award Univ of Kansas and Columbia, Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Applied Therapeutic Humor. He is immediate Past-President of the Association for Applied Therapeutic Humor and a contributing author to the Handbook of Humor and Psychotherapy.  

Stay connected with Dr. Margarita via LinkedIn and Twitter

Touch Base Tuesdays with Dr. Richard Doss


Suicide prevention is just one question away. "Are you thinking of killing yourself?"

Dr. Richard Doss is an award-winning clinical psychologist who prevents suicide. With your sassy psychologist Host Dr. Margarita Gurri, Dr Doss helps us start this difficult taboo conversation and discusses what to do about it to help save a life. 

Dr. Richard Doss is a Clinical Psychologist with the Department of Veterans Affairs Vet Center with years of experience as a trauma specialist. Not long ago he was the Suicide Prevention Manager for the Department of Defense working with the US Army Reserve. He has trained hundreds of Soldiers and their families in the art of Suicide Awareness and Suicide Prevention.

Tune in and Touch Base to start that conversation that just might save a life. Join your host, Dr. Doss and the Touch Base Tuesdays' community of listeners. Call: 929-477-3765

The question for today is. “How do I help someone who is thinking of killing themselves?”

  1. Listen
  2. Ask, “Are you thinking of killing yourself?”
  3. If, “Yes”, ask “What's going on?” Allow them to tell the story.
  4. Listen for reasons to live.
  5. Set up Action Plan: secure guns, hospital, counselor…
  6. Take Action: Call 911 or escort to a hospital, clinic, mental health professional…

Reach out to Dr. Richard Doss at  708-359-3568. 
Reach to Dr. Margarita Gurri at 954-609-9904.

Touch Base Tuesdays with Marlene Ware


All that extra deployment pay? Nothing to show for it? Transitioning from the military to a civilian job? Identity been stolen?

Make the most of each hard-earned dollar today and tomorrow. Learn from Marlene Ware, Director of Financial Stability with Warrior Support Services, a Division of the National Foundation of Debt Management. Marlene helps active duty, guard, or reserve military families and civilians be financially fit for healthier families and an even stronger nation.

Tune in and Touch Base, to learn from this wise, practical, and fun Financial Advocate.

Marlene’s Cover Your Assets Tips

  • Create a lifelong financial rhythm
  • Set little, reachable, sustainable financial goals for a healthy financial life
  • Learn the secrets of saving
  • Climb out of your financial hole
  • Protect your identity

A bona fide Certified Credit Counselor and military mom, she volunteers with Employer Support of Guard and Reserve where Marlene helps military folks transition from military to civilian jobs. This Fall 2014, she will advocate for financial health for all Americans in an upcoming United Way Conference.

Reach out directly to Marlene via her cell at 727-239-3690

Touch Base Tuesdays with MAJ Sarah Merwin McLevy, LG, FLARNG


MAJ Sarah Merwin McLevy, LG, FLARNG, S1, 83rd Troop Command – Bronze Star recipient and the Human Resource Officer for the 83rd Troop Command in Tallahassee, Florida… discusses deployment homecoming strategies with your seasoned and sassy psychologist Host Dr. Margarita Gurri.

A former Deployment Cycle Support Chief, MAJ McLevy led a team supporting deploying Guardsmen with 71 Yellow Ribbon events, preparing over 25,000 Soldiers and their families for the stress of deployment and redeployment.

Maj McLevy speaks to the question of “How do we prepare for deployment and homecoming?”

Tune in and Touch Base as this decorated soldier shares her practical knowledge.

  • What’s the Yellow Ribbon Program?
  • Why are Guardsmen and Reservists returning from deployment facing the unemployment line?
  • How can the Florida Guard Family Career Connection help soldiers find a job?

The mother of two beautiful daughters, Kali 23 and Kimberly 19, Maj McLevy’s loves being “Nana” to her granddaughter, Lorelei; Clemson Tigers play football, and her road bike.

Contact Major Sarah McLevy: 850-245-0119.

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Touch Base Tuesdays with Lt Col Todd Riddle, USAF AFRC


Lt Col Todd D. Riddle, USAF AFRC 442 Fighter Wing Air Force combat-decorated and current mission ready A-10C Instructor Pilot, and Wing Inspector General… discusses his Three-legged Stool theory for deployment readiness with your seasoned and sassy psychologist Host Dr. Margarita Gurri.

Family Readiness is Battle Readiness. Lt Col Riddle speaks to the question “How do I get my family ready for my deployment?” His answer? “Work, Love, Dance.”

Tune in and Touch Base as this decorated airman shares his Deployment Survival Tips. You can reach him on LinkedIn.

  • Deploying communicates to your loved ones the importance of your work. How do you communicate how important they are in the midst of that separation?
  • How do we tell the kids?
  • What can I do to find this work still rewarding in the midst of "The Long War”?

Lt Col Riddle is a riveting keynoter and resourceful organizational consultant addressing Performance Excellence, Why Fighter Pilots Win, Leadership, Living in Balance, and Service Before Self. He and his beautiful wife Sarah have 3 children and live in Warrensburg, Missouri. Life for Todd and his family revolves around Nebraska football, endless kids’ activities, poorly played golf and brief escapes aboard a 100 cubic-inch v-twin muscle bike.

Stay connected with Dr. Margarita via her website and Twitter.

Gift-giving and the Law of Attraction

So very often gifts become a channel for showing off rather than connecting genuinely. We are tempted to pretend we are doing better than we are or tempted to show off how well we are doing by giving clients and colleagues extravagant gifts. To what end? Spending money unwisely is simply “Gobbling the Marshmallow”  as a colleague, Dr. Joachim de Posada would say in his popular Marshmallow books.

And another thing… A pet peeve of mine is giving gifts as an avenue to have others walk around with items emblazoned with our logo. Is this really a thank you gift? Nope. It’s advertising.

Not that there’s anything wrong with advertising. It’s okay to give logo-ed items as advertisement as long as this is transparent. I sit here typing, sipping hot tea from one of my favorite mugs with a logo discreetly displayed. This travel mug was given to my by a friend, Achim Nowak of Influens as a year end gift of appreciation to clients and contributors. Great gift.

When did we lose that sense of civility and let ourselves be enticed into giving gifts with mixed intent? The best gifts of all are priceless: 1. keep our promises, 2. give credit where credit is due, and 3. remember to share the wealth, inviting abundance with a generous spirit and effective referrals.


Business Ethics with Referrals

In tough financial times, its easy for business folk to fall into the habit of taking on every client and project even when they and the client would be best served with a perfect referral.

The perfect referral is good for business and the greater good. It builds credibility for our businesses, our reputations, and trust with our clients and colleagues.

So… Why don’t we refer?

Ego, jealousy, fearfulness, stinginess… The reasons are many. It’s best to have faith in ourselves and in our clients that they recognize what we have to offer without having to take on clients or projects that are outside of our sweet spot of expertise, too much for the targeted time period, or simply not our cup of tea. Being all things to all people is a great way to disappoint others and to reach for great mediocrity.

It’s a sign of abundance and wisdom to make that perfect referral. So, build those relationships, strengthen your business, and reach for the success that you have fostered so thoughtfully.

Refer for success. Who’s on your list?

Cheerios, Dog Hair, and Sand

Looking at my car, I decided that there are three things I always want in my car. For me, these are a sign of happiness, of a life well-lived. What are yours?

As a young mother I used to lament my inability to vacuum up all the escaped Cheerios from my daughters’, Jess and Kate’s, car seats. The Cheerios seemed to spontaneously generate after enthusiastic vacuum jobs or just in mid-sentence. Now, as a happy grandmother, I cherish those Cheerios that root themselves in the fabric of my car after transporting my youngest grand girl, Taryn.

Second and third are dog hair and sand. These two go hand-in-hand. What good is a life without either? After my friend Achim bought his second convertible, we went to the beach. As we parked near the beach, he commented that he always wished to have sand in his car. I agree. What a great thing it is to have a beach nearby, the energy to play in it, and the wisdom to visit it often. True joy.

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Victims, Bullies, and Heroes

With so much talk about bullies these days, I wanted to pose my tilted perspective.

It’s so easy to point to this star or that hero and say that she is a bully or that he is a victim. The story is often so much more complicated than that. Besides, aren’t we all tempted to see ourselves as the perfect one in our own story.

In truth, we are all victims, bullies, and heroes. Sometimes, we are the bully. Sometimes we are the victim or the hero. Other times, we play all three roles during one incident.

Although violent behavior cannot be tolerated and victims cannot be blamed, if we look beyond blame to contribution, we see a richer story. This story offers more possibilities for change and growth.

The real question is: How did I contribute to the role of bully, hero, or victim? Asking the question, in and of itself sets us on the path of true accountability and steers us from victimization of ourselves and others. After all, what is a bully, but someone who has been victimized by aggression, indulgence, or neglect?

Guilt-free Holiday Excess

Ah, the holidays. I hear so many people talking about losing weight so they can eat more during the holidays in a guilt-free way.

Since when did eating become a sin? Oh, right, gluttony.

So… does one big night of joyful eating, or two or three, really make for gluttony? I think not.

What are the holidays for but to do things differently? We are more grateful, more desirous of joy and happiness, more ambitious with goals for business and personal lives, more generous, and more likely to let loose with our usual disciplines. Sounds good to me.

This year, why not let yourself really enjoy, so you don’t have to gorge yourself. Guilty eating just makes us stuff our faces without real enjoyment of the yumminess of it all. Consult your medical, holistic, or nutrition professional and banish the scales, enjoy the beautifully-set tables, and savor the bounty of this universe.