Choose Happiness, Own Your Power! The Key to Success is a Red Shoe Attitude

There is an elegant power to happiness. It helps us succeed in love and life.

Yet, happiness cannot be a goal. It is the by-product of living with our values matching our behavior. It’s all about owning our power.

How do you give away your happiness? For women, the answer is easiest to see in how we deal with difficult people and situations.

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Gift-giving and the Law of Attraction

So very often gifts become a channel for showing off rather than connecting genuinely. We are tempted to pretend we are doing better than we are or tempted to show off how well we are doing by giving clients and colleagues extravagant gifts. To what end? Spending money unwisely is simply “Gobbling the Marshmallow”  as a colleague, Dr. Joachim de Posada would say in his popular Marshmallow books.

And another thing… A pet peeve of mine is giving gifts as an avenue to have others walk around with items emblazoned with our logo. Is this really a thank you gift? Nope. It’s advertising.

Not that there’s anything wrong with advertising. It’s okay to give logo-ed items as advertisement as long as this is transparent. I sit here typing, sipping hot tea from one of my favorite mugs with a logo discreetly displayed. This travel mug was given to my by a friend, Achim Nowak of Influens as a year end gift of appreciation to clients and contributors. Great gift.

When did we lose that sense of civility and let ourselves be enticed into giving gifts with mixed intent? The best gifts of all are priceless: 1. keep our promises, 2. give credit where credit is due, and 3. remember to share the wealth, inviting abundance with a generous spirit and effective referrals.


Business Ethics with Referrals

In tough financial times, its easy for business folk to fall into the habit of taking on every client and project even when they and the client would be best served with a perfect referral.

The perfect referral is good for business and the greater good. It builds credibility for our businesses, our reputations, and trust with our clients and colleagues.

So… Why don’t we refer?

Ego, jealousy, fearfulness, stinginess… The reasons are many. It’s best to have faith in ourselves and in our clients that they recognize what we have to offer without having to take on clients or projects that are outside of our sweet spot of expertise, too much for the targeted time period, or simply not our cup of tea. Being all things to all people is a great way to disappoint others and to reach for great mediocrity.

It’s a sign of abundance and wisdom to make that perfect referral. So, build those relationships, strengthen your business, and reach for the success that you have fostered so thoughtfully.

Refer for success. Who’s on your list?

Paperwork and Delegation Skills

Yuck. Paperwork. How often does a piece of paper or virtual document conjure up dread and ire? What’s a winner to do?

Aha! Delegation is to the key to my paperwork success. I stink at paperwork. I can read a form and the ink or digital characters just float before my eyes with no meaning.

Yet, my daughter Jess. who runs the Red Shoe, sees clear opportunities and responses.

Being Catholic, I forced myself to complete all paperwork by myself. The combination of torture, guilt, and relief was shared by my accountant as he had to deal with my less-than-perfect renditions of completed forms.

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Holidays are a great time to feel crushed by competing obligations. Ho ho hrmph! What’s a grump to do?

I’d say that Hawaii sounds good, but those of us that live in Florida are already in paradise.

So, its time to take a 15 minute time chunk and do a core brain dump of all obligations, nagging thoughts, and wishes, taking special note of anything we are dreading or avoiding. Looking at this list is any over-loaded individual or procrastinator’s nightmare. It is also the beginning of salvation.

With professional To Dos on the left-hand column and personal ones on the right, its clear why we were in hrmph mode.

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Do-overs and New Beginnings

Don’t you just love new beginnings? So fresh with possibilities and the clean slate of it all?

Truth is, each moment is pregnant with possibilities brought on by abstinence. The choice to do or not do, say or not say, think or not think, or indulge or not indulge in any in a range of emotions.

From one moment to the next, without any special event or motivator, each of us can claim a do-over. Why wait for a seminal event before we claim the possibilities of the next moments?

Let’s go for it!

Graciousness: A Business Strategy

Who knew that graciousness could lead to success? Our mothers and Shep Hyken!

This weekend, I had the good fortune of hearing Shep Hyken CSP, CPAE speak to the Florida Speaker’s Association. His topic was: Get More Bookings and Sell More Product. What a gracious man. He modeled great customer service for our internal and external customers. Wow!

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